The Step-By-Step Guide to Becoming the Highest Version of You
And why you should start today
Life is a collision of uncertainties.
As fate would have it, as soon as something starts going right you can expect that an abrupt punch in the mouth is right around the corner.
It feels unfair but in a way, expecting the unexpected is the best way to operate. With uncertainty baked in, you’re always expecting something to steer you off course.
This is just one part of building the highest version of you.
It builds a better version of you
It’s sort of getting to the point where I enjoy it when life doesn’t go my way. Before things were muddy.
After I’d climbed up from a mighty fall, I’d think I’d have everything figured out and then boop, hard truth would smack me on the nose.
The most interesting thing that happens though when you start seeking out these truths, start seeing them as pills you must swallow in order to live a full life.
As you do, you realise your emotions about these things are really misplaced energy. The frustration and anger your feel at the world would better serve you by channelling that energy into action.
Let me explain how you develop the highest version of you.
1. Chase your curiosity until it evolves into obsession
Life is lost on those who do not dip their toe into the pool of curiosity.
A big, fruitful life is waiting for those who indulge their curiosities, let go of their fears and dive deep into the pool of life. It’s not an overstatement. It’s the truth.
The problem is, the chase exhausting.
It’s emotionally draining. It’s physically labouring. It feels like a neverending pursuit.
If you want to change your direction, if you are beating your head against a wall because passion seems like the evasive species, give into the idea that first, you must chase curiosity.
Chase your curiosity and it’ll evolve into obsession.
2. Develop emotional resilience
Emotions are thorns in your side.
Logic tells you it takes years, you’ll get it wrong, you need deep patience, and you have to play the long game. Emotion crushes that into dust. If you want to develop resilience, emotional mastery is key.
Logic can’t beat emotion, larger emotions do.
Let’s take an example:
It’s hard to get out of bed in the morning, you snooze, and you wake up late.
Beating this emotion with logic will end up in more emotional spillover. But beating it with emotion, well there’s a novel idea. How you might ask?
Well like this:
If I don’t get out of bed and I keep not doing the things I said I would, in 20 years' time I’ll get to a place where I no longer have the ability.
It’s that last sentence that has shocked me into getting up out of bed for the last 3 years even when I really (really) didn’t want to.
3. Don’t let anybody tell you you can’t
Most people you interact with on the internet will cheer you on.
Some live vicariously through you. Some push you to be the best version of yourself. Some support you in ways you couldn’t imagine. But for the 99% of cheerleaders, there’s one naysayer.
There’s always one.
Often it comes from some dark place in their own life but for some reason, some people love to rip others down. For those people, you must learn to screen them out. They’ll never serve you.
Smile and move on.
Be happy you’re not the person ripping other people down for fun.
4. Commit 5 years of your life to the practice
Nobody wants to hear this.
It’ll take 5 years for anybody to listen. Sure some people get there way quicker but that’s usually because they’ve tried a million and one different things before or they got lucky.
I’m not saying you can’t, I’m saying most people don’t.
Better is to have fun building, to learn, to create, to have fun and then if you take off, great. If you don’t, well you’re having the best time anyway, so you’ve already won.
5. Everything is about getting better
4 years ago I tried to start a shoe reselling business. It wasn’t the best idea I’ve ever had but it was reflective of my mentality back then.
Watch a YT video on reselling
Realise you could make a load of money
Buy everything and anything that might help
Get bored after 4 weeks and give up
Here’s something I needed to hear: your five years start the moment you properly commit. That doesn’t mean start, stop, start, stop. It doesn’t mean buying a domain name and not touching it for 2 months.
It starts the moment you commit to showing up most days and practising with intention. Showing up every day and trying to get better.
6. You’ll emerge in 5 years a different person
I’m 3 years in and I literally feel like a new human.
Today I’m unrecognisable to the person I once was. If you decide to embark on the journey, you’ll find this happens to you. Once you start, you realise that the fabric of who you are can be unstitched, you can change, you can build, and you can become the highest version of yourself.
All it takes is consistent effort.
But honestly, the feeling of working towards the highest version of yourself is nothing like I’ve ever felt. It’s remarkable to feel proud of yourself. To have self-belief.
To have this overwhelming feeling that no matter what, you’ll be okay.
I really hope you get started if you haven’t already.
This edition is free to everyone. I hope you love it as much as I love writing it. Happy Thursday and hoping you find the highest version of you!